Serious Why do women find men in relationships more attractive?

[Donkeyd]

Down at my gym theres this personal trainer who's (not gonna lie) pretty hot.

We've had a couple of conversations but she seemed to have this love herself attitude and clearly thought she was far too good for me.

I'm absolutely not interested in her but we have a few things in common hence the conversations but then would flat out ignore me after I'd come in and just say Hi. Like I didn't exist.

Started coming down with the wife and jesus how the attitude has changed. With the wife she'll say hello across the gym, little waves and purposely walk past and give a little smile.

Fast forward 6mths, wife's broken her wrist. So shes not coming down to the gym. Personal trainer now sees this as her opportunity. Will regularly come over, have conversations about her divorced husband, do I want to train with her? Etc etc

I know yer game. This is a woman that likes the chase and once she's got you she'll fuck you off. Ain't nothing gonna happen but in my 50yrs this appears to be a regular trait with women and taken men.

Only thing I can think of is single men ooze desperation and this is a thing women dont find attractive. This might also be a subconscious thing that women are sometimes unaware of.

 

[Choppy]

good thing all women arent the same.

 

[PinkE]

I don't find men in relationships more attractive, I find it easier to talk to them knowing they aren't going to hit on me (as much lol). Maybe this is that same kind of situation. Kind of like you're more approachable because you're not a creepy, horny single player guy. But in a friendly way..

 

[Str8shooter]

I don't find men in relationships more attractive, I find it easier to talk to them knowing they aren't going to hit on me (as much lol). Maybe this is that same kind of situation. Kind of like you're more approachable because you're not a creepy, horny single player guy. But in a friendly way..

But just because someone is in a relationship does not mean that they won't hit on you (or more) if they want to or think they can get away with it.

@Donkeyd Seems like she's really into the chase, just playing around to see if she could get you if she wanted to. It's like she wants to be able to put the crosshairs on you without having any intention of pulling the trigger so to speak. It's probably a power/self esteem thing. IDK.

 

[(G.O.A.T.) Tubemonkey]

Sorry, you've been safe-zoned She didn't want to get hit on by some random at the gym, but now that you've been exposed as a faithful husband who brings his wife along to the gym she feels safe you're not just reaching for her fruits.

 

[hedgerow]

don't let a maggot destroy your marriage, so avoid this poisonous fly

 

[PinkE]

But just because someone is in a relationship does not mean that they won't hit on you (or more) if they want to or think they can get away with it.

@Donkeyd Seems like she's really into the chase, just playing around to see if she could get you if she wanted to. It's like she wants to be able to put the crosshairs on you without having any intention of pulling the trigger so to speak. It's probably a power/self esteem thing. IDK.

Ok sure, but just cause someone is nice or friendly to you doesn't always mean they're hitting on you.

 

[jslay427]

Maybe you have unbeknownst to yourself become hot by your gym going. Im still in good shape but not what I once was. If the wife's wrist is broken then who might I ask is making your sandwiches? @Donkeyd

 

[Deleted member 1657374]

Not all 🫩

 

[Donkeyd]

I don't find men in relationships more attractive, I find it easier to talk to them knowing they aren't going to hit on me (as much lol). Maybe this is that same kind of situation. Kind of like you're more approachable because you're not a creepy, horny single player guy. But in a friendly way..

Ah! So there you have it, guy in a relationship is easy to talk to (aint desperate)

 

[Donkeyd]

Maybe you have unbeknownst to yourself become hot by your gym going. Im still in good shape but not what I once was. If the wife's wrist is broken then who might I ask is making your sandwiches? @Donkeyd

Ouch

 

[Htos1av]

In any relationship, I never noticed anything like this. There were a couple instances where she had her tongue down my throat and pants down by the time I reacted....(shoulda married Lori's sister)

 

[dildo_swaggins]

There's nothing more attractive than something you can't have. I'm tell her to mind her own fucking business.

 

[GorditaChaser]

Down at my gym theres this personal trainer who's (not gonna lie) pretty hot.

We've had a couple of conversations but she seemed to have this love herself attitude and clearly thought she was far too good for me.

I'm absolutely not interested in her but we have a few things in common hence the conversations but then would flat out ignore me after I'd come in and just say Hi. Like I didn't exist.

Started coming down with the wife and jesus how the attitude has changed. With the wife she'll say hello across the gym, little waves and purposely walk past and give a little smile.

Fast forward 6mths, wife's broken her wrist. So shes not coming down to the gym. Personal trainer now sees this as her opportunity. Will regularly come over, have conversations about her divorced husband, do I want to train with her? Etc etc

I know yer game. This is a woman that likes the chase and once she's got you she'll fuck you off. Ain't nothing gonna happen but in my 50yrs this appears to be a regular trait with women and taken men.

Only thing I can think of is single men ooze desperation and this is a thing women dont find attractive. This might also be a subconscious thing that women are sometimes unaware of.

It’s human nature to want what we can’t have, then we do finally have it we lose that interest that was so lustful to begin with. Endless cycle of greed.

 

[mrln]

women want what they cant have. ive had women hit on me more, once they found out im married. and tits not always a "single guy whose horny and out to get laid". its a quest for them. ive known guys to fall for it. to find out that once the woman has fucked them,they want zero to do with them. theyd move on to the next guy. this broad is like a "bar fly", but a "gym fly". ive also seen this shit at the gym i used to go to.
this one brazo chick (very attrative), would say hello and give that innocent smile as she shakes her ass when she walks by certain guys.

 

[Ramres]

I don't find men in relationships more attractive, I find it easier to talk to them knowing they aren't going to hit on me (as much lol). Maybe this is that same kind of situation. Kind of like you're more approachable because you're not a creepy, horny single player guy. But in a friendly way..

Yeah, I think it's more simple in that guys in relationships are in relationships for a reason Plenty times a gal will hit on a guy in a relationship, not even knowing he was in a relationship in the first place. These guys always tend to either grow up with some sisters, have a wonderful mother figure that taught them right, or have a lot of previous relationships that taught them how to behave around girls without coming off as spergy, creepy, or sending wrong signals by treating them like one of the guys instead of an interest.

Meanwhile the guys that aren't in one are either not putting themselves out there, and that's fair, or they just don't know how to interact with girls and never had the opportunity to learn proper or don't want to learn and just assume it will happen magically because of sunk cost fallacy.

 

[Richard 1986]

Do i look attractive ?? Seriously ??

 

[Sauerkraut]

My theory: Some women see it as a challenge, are always sizing themselves up against other women, and know how to use a man’s ego against him. If the man is faithful to his wife, then what’s the harm? It can be seen as « safe flirtation ». If the man strays, it’s a « victory » for the woman, and if she’s really psycho, a source of blackmail for her. Some like to be the center of male attention. Some get off on the feeling of power achieved when they conquer or humiliate a man.

 

[Fäthër Cörpsë]

Put your wife onto her to keep her company. Maybe they can become good friends.

Then after awhile you start having her over for dinner or movie night, and let’s just see how this plays out.

 

[SearCutFAL]

I'm drowning in an Ocean of Estrogen at Work ...
(Nurses, CNA's, etc)
Sometimes, I ask them important/interesting Life Questions,
then have to slap myself to reset my Eye Roll button.


Here's your Answer:

In Girl World. (a woman's view of life)

* Not Involved men:
What's wrong with him, must be something or he'd be taken.


* Already involved men:
Are literally considered Pre-Approved, like a Pre-Qualified Loan.


* Already married men:
Are considered super-pre-approved Plus-Plus.
Probably interested in having children.
Have shown the ability to Commit.
Children & Commitment = a House/Home (Nesting)
All the above takes = Money (Security)