Watching my brother die (1 Viewer)

[mark_with_a_k]

Another post just reminded me of this. Unfortunately I had to see my brother die in horrible way and I want to know if anyone else has had to deal with this.
In July of 2000, my brother and I (I was 16, he was 18) got jumped by a gang from the shitty part of town. Long story short, my brother ended up getting dragged under a car for about 20-30 yards. I remember as the car ran him over he was going to come out the front missing him. No luck. His shirt must have caught on something under the car and he got dragged. I remember seeing him under the car with blood steaming down his face. He was making unnatural sounds. I grabbed his hand and told him I will see him in the hospital. I said “Ben, You probably just have a broken leg or something.” I tried lifting up the car myself getting nowhere. I really believed he was going to be ok. Seeing him under the car was the worst thing ever in my life. I remember a female officer told me he was not breathing. In my stupor I said,”ok, but you can take him to the hospital and revive him, right? After about 5 times telling me he was not breathing, she finally said something like, “he’s dead”. Worst day of my life ever. That was 20 years ago and I still think about my brother, Ben, every day.

sorry I keep editing, but has anyone witnessed gore of a loved one in front of them and how did you deal with it. We (myself included) joke about it which is fine, but pm me if you have had to see it in real life if it happened to a loved one.

 

[MATAMUERTOS]

i'm not going to go into details but i get it. every day. of course.

 

[mark_with_a_k]

Another post just reminded me of this. Unfortunately a had to see my brother die in a horrible way and I want to know if anyone else has had to deal with this.
In July of 2000, my brother and I (I was 16, he was 18) got jumped by a gang from the shitty part of town. Long story short, my brother ended up getting dragged under a car for about 20-30 yards. I remember as the car ran him over he was going to come out the back. No luck. His shirt must have caught on something under the car and he got dragged. I remember seeing him under the car with blood steaming down his face. He was making unnatural sounds. I grabbed his hand and told him I will see him in the hospital. I said “Ben, You probably just have a broken leg or something.” I really believed he was going to be ok. Seeing him under the car was the worst thing ever in my life. I remember a female officer told me he was not breathing. In my stupor I said,”ok, but you can take him to the hospital and revive him, right? After about 5 times telling me he was not breathing, she finally said something like, “he’s dead”. Worst day of my life ever. That was 20 years ago and I still think about my brother, Ben, every day.

Actually there are days where I don’t think about him and I feel his memory is fading away in my mind and it makes me really sad.

 

[mark_with_a_k]

i'm not going to go into details but i get it. every day. of course.

Not sure what you’ve been through, but I feel like my life was altered that day. I was a good kid, popular, played baseball on the high school team. After that day I just withdrew and I’ve gotten better since, but it’s something that I will never get over.

 

[Microwaved Bbs]

grief is one of the worst things someone can go through. also thats so traumatic im sorry ):

 

[mark_with_a_k]

grief is one of the worst things someone can go through. also thats so traumatic im sorry ):

Definitely. It’s weird how depressing music helps me get through it.

 

[mark_with_a_k]

 

[ImBigBubby]

Another post just reminded me of this. Unfortunately I had to see my brother die in horrible way and I want to know if anyone else has had to deal with this.
In July of 2000, my brother and I (I was 16, he was 18) got jumped by a gang from the shitty part of town. Long story short, my brother ended up getting dragged under a car for about 20-30 yards. I remember as the car ran him over he was going to come out the front missing him. No luck. His shirt must have caught on something under the car and he got dragged. I remember seeing him under the car with blood steaming down his face. He was making unnatural sounds. I grabbed his hand and told him I will see him in the hospital. I said “Ben, You probably just have a broken leg or something.” I tried lifting up the car myself getting nowhere. I really believed he was going to be ok. Seeing him under the car was the worst thing ever in my life. I remember a female officer told me he was not breathing. In my stupor I said,”ok, but you can take him to the hospital and revive him, right? After about 5 times telling me he was not breathing, she finally said something like, “he’s dead”. Worst day of my life ever. That was 20 years ago and I still think about my brother, Ben, every day.

sorry I keep editing, but has anyone witnessed gore of a loved one in front of them and how did you deal with it. We (myself included) joke about it which is fine, but pm me if you have had to see it in real life if it happened to a loved one.

Watching a love one die is the worst, when I was roughly 11 my brother had jumped into our pool, but he hit his head on the tile wall of the pool, I had to watch as his head bled into the pool and the water went red because I couldn’t swim and I didn’t have a phone at the time, about 2-3 hours later is when my parents got back and they found him floating in the pool, I still miss him man

 

[mark_with_a_k]

Watching a love one die is the worst, when I was roughly 11 my brother had jumped into our pool, but he hit his head on the tile wall of the pool, I had to watch as his head bled into the pool and the water went red because I couldn’t swim and I didn’t have a phone at the time, about 2-3 hours later is when my parents got back and they found him floating in the pool, I still miss him man

That’s crazy. I felt the same way. I couldn’t lift the car to help him the same way you couldn’t swim. You just have to wait. A few seconds feel like a lifetime. Life is fucking crazy.

 

[bgirl]

Another post just reminded me of this. Unfortunately I had to see my brother die in horrible way and I want to know if anyone else has had to deal with this.
In July of 2000, my brother and I (I was 16, he was 18) got jumped by a gang from the shitty part of town. Long story short, my brother ended up getting dragged under a car for about 20-30 yards. I remember as the car ran him over he was going to come out the front missing him. No luck. His shirt must have caught on something under the car and he got dragged. I remember seeing him under the car with blood steaming down his face. He was making unnatural sounds. I grabbed his hand and told him I will see him in the hospital. I said “Ben, You probably just have a broken leg or something.” I tried lifting up the car myself getting nowhere. I really believed he was going to be ok. Seeing him under the car was the worst thing ever in my life. I remember a female officer told me he was not breathing. In my stupor I said,”ok, but you can take him to the hospital and revive him, right? After about 5 times telling me he was not breathing, she finally said something like, “he’s dead”. Worst day of my life ever. That was 20 years ago and I still think about my brother, Ben, every day.

sorry I keep editing, but has anyone witnessed gore of a loved one in front of them and how did you deal with it. We (myself included) joke about it which is fine, but pm me if you have had to see it in real life if it happened to a loved one.

That's a very sad deeply personal story to share here. No, I haven't witnessed a traumatic death of a loved one. I'm sure that kind of a last memory of someone is difficult.

I've seen some traumatic deaths as an EMT and there's been several that family members were there. I remember more about those family members than I do about the gory deaths. People react to death and grieve differently, some deny, collapse, blame, or get angry. It's all normal. I sometimes felt like an intruder viewing a very private moment between loved ones. That female cop probably remembers you more than your brother.

 

[januarytwnty]

It’s amazing how music can evoke a certain feeling from a time period of your life. Like a bookmark. I feel same way about certain songs. Reminds me of situations whether they are good or bad.

P.s. Love the Deftones. New album is awesome. Got tickets to see them in September hopefully.

 

[mark_with_a_k]

I want to show the newspaper article, but I think my parents have it and I don’t want to ask them for it. I really want to show it though just for his remembrance.

 

[mark_with_a_k]

It’s amazing how music can evoke a certain feeling from a time period of your life. Like a bookmark. I feel same way about certain songs. Reminds me of situations whether they are good or bad.

P.s. Love the Deftones. New album is awesome. Got tickets to see them in September hopefully.

This is one that got me through it. This and Gone Away by the Offspring

 

[januarytwnty]

I want to show the newspaper article, but I think my parents have it and I don’t want to ask them for it. I really want to show it though just for his remembrance.

As cheesy as it sounds, maybe make a private diary or blog where you write everything you remember from that day down to the detail.

 

[januarytwnty]

This is one that got me through it. This and Gone Away by the Offspring

Great song and band. Their Heatmiser cover is great.

 

[mark_with_a_k]

As cheesy as it sounds, maybe make a private diary or blog where you write everything you remember from that day down to the detail.

Thanks for the advice. Drinking and drugs make the pain go away much faster. I’m kidding, but I’m not. Thanks for listening to my story though.

 

[januarytwnty]

Thanks for the advice. Drinking and drugs make the pain go away much faster. I’m kidding, but I’m not. Thanks for listening to my story though.

No problem. I couldn’t imagine the pain you’ve gone through. I’m sure it’s made you a stronger person as well.

 

[mark_with_a_k]

If anyone has any music that gets them
Through tough times please post. Not feeling great right now. Need some motivation that lets me know. Don’t care about the genre. Don’t care if it’s depressing or motivating. Just need to listen to something

 

[campkla]

bitch, you are a pussy lip that got fuck. that day you should've died with your brother.
fuck being a pussy who watches their own brother died.
loc up or stfu, pussy.

 

[mark_with_a_k]

bitch, you are a pussy lip that got fuck. that day you should've died with your brother.
fuck being a pussy who watches their own brother died.
loc up or stfu, pussy.

I should have expected this. You alone got me out of my own head. I’m recovered now.