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Serious Accused of sexual harassment at work

Remember years ago, at an office Christmas party, getting behind one of the girls , hoisting her on my shoulders, and challenging others to do same and play chicken fight. She was a bit peeved, but was cool about it in the end.

But i've smartened up since...now all i say if i want to compliment a lady is "that shirt fits you well." Used it just recently to the hostess at the after dinner wake for a relative. She smiled but didn't look at me once for the rest of the night.
 
Remember years ago, at an office Christmas party, getting behind one of the girls , hoisting her on my shoulders, and challenging others to do same and play chicken fight. She was a bit peeved, but was cool about it in the end.

But i've smartened up since...now all i say if i want to compliment a lady is "that shirt fits you well." Used it just recently to the hostess at the after dinner wake for a relative. She smiled but didn't look at me once for the rest of the night.
seems like you cant even say that to a woman now either.
 
I asked loud and clear if I could take a work selfie for photo collection
Why didn't you just karate chop that bitch in the neck and take a selfie of you teabagging her while she's unconscious? No, you asked for permission.

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Remember years ago, at an office Christmas party, getting behind one of the girls , hoisting her on my shoulders, and challenging others to do same and play chicken fight. She was a bit peeved, but was cool about it in the end.

But i've smartened up since...now all i say if i want to compliment a lady is "that shirt fits you well." Used it just recently to the hostess at the after dinner wake for a relative. She smiled but didn't look at me once for the rest of the night.
Hahahaha Saying that her shirt fits her well is LITERALLY saying "Nice Tits" or."u have a lovely.figure"

😂😂😂
 
You just keep being the dude who you are. Have had a similar situation happen to me years ago tho not at work. I knew I did nothing wrong or as was described by the girl but said my part and kept being who I was. Felt a long year but everyone knew eventually I was right about what really happened. Stand your ground fellow man and it will work out for you in the end.
 
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Background info: I'm 37 (Southern Ontario, Canada), failed post-secondary attempts but that's the past right? Looking past regrets and looking into the varied skilled trades to find something I'd really enjoy doing that pays well. Until then, general labour jobs in the area; I lucked out with a pool company as a maintenance person.

They assigned me for first three days with this girl who's probably 22 at oldest. I'm not going to jeopardize this new job that pays a decent starting wage for the coming inflation. So I actually respect women a lot and actually try to make them comfortable around me, by not ogling them or staring, catcalling or any of that shit they complain about so much about actual creeps. Me and her start off pretty good, she's good at her job and taught me most of what I know so far. Any other talk we've had has been random and mundane, like her bringing up her personal life, and we compared pets and she even asked me advice on how to handle her and her mom's dogs' separation, and I emphasized to bring dog for visit as often as possible when she goes to see her mom.

One day I want to take a selfie to add to profile pictures, because I want more photos of myself in varying situations. (Vital point to add: girls have complimented my looks quite a few times in the past, I'm not saying that to brag, but just to illuminate this isn't some fucking goblin hitting on a 10 lol). I considered just taking it sideways to show work equipment and part of her in picture incidentally, but I decided to ask permission first. She was driving and I asked loud and clear if I could take a work selfie for photo collection, and if she was in shot I'd blur or crop it. She turned slightly, saw phone and said "Yeah, that's fine."

Then she reports me to the manager, who calls me in the next morning to say she accused me of harassment and taking photos of her. Despite her granting explicit consent to my face.
Not usually confrontational, and in the moment of being chewed out, I didn't remember to say that. The girl avoided me terribly, didn't say hello, looked past me, like night and day. Since girls talk, she has guaranteed told other co-workers her version of events by now.

They assigned me with someone else, we did our first few jobs but I was still badly affected by the harassment accusation. It took a few hours before I realized I forgot she granted consent.

The harassment policy in the employee handbook states "All events will be investigated fully and fairly in a reasonable amount of time. No employee will be reprimanded in any way for reporting an act of violence or harassment regardless of the outcome of the investigation." Typical harassment policy, but does that mean female employees can make shit up about a guy they work with, with no fear of consequence to themselves?

Going in 30 min early Monday, going to constructively discuss this with manager and seeing what happens; because the situation as it stands is untenable, and imo this is a huge misunderstanding, or she forgot what she said. I'd love it to just go back to normal with no awkwardness, but we'll see. But I won't work at a place that labels me a harasser unfairly, without due process. I'll do best to enjoy weekend before then.

I just had to vent about this shit, and gather opinions.
Resign immediately.
 
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