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Serious Fear of death

Hey everyone,
Since all of us here are familiar with death I would like to ask a question to all of you. Honestly, death is something I fear a lot and even though the fear might be rational or irrational, I haven’t found a way to deal with it/way of looking at it yet. This is my reaching out to you guys to give me reasons to not be afraid of death. Sharing personal stories, theories or way of looking at it is more than welcome!

Thank you in advance, and if you make fun of me…well, fuck you :lulz:
Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but it gets you no where.

When there's an inevitable why worry. Getting old is a privilege. Embrace life not death.
 
That’s the kind of death I’ve seen most frequently, and would be what I’d hope to experience when my time comes. It’s why I think there may be some form of transcendence and will head towards ‘the light’ if I see it (I don’t mean in a biblical heaven type way). It’s almost like they see something at the moment just before death, something peaceful and nice. Sometimes I’ve seen people smile and reach out in front of themselves just before death.

Medically speaking, there are phases of dying with corresponding changes in breathing. In the last moments breathing slows and becomes shallow, with periods of apnoea (not breathing) followed by gasps. This may be a reflex in a similar way to how we have to take a big breath after holding our breath for a long time. However, I prefer to think in line with my first paragraph after lots of ‘spiritual’ learning over the past couple of years and experiencing what I’ve seen in dying patients.
Thanks for that I hope so to.
 
Being afraid of death is normal…in fact fear can be a valuable tool if you use that correctly…but going overboard won’t help you ….am I afraid of death…fuck yes who in reality isn’t (just because people run into a hail of bullets doesn’t mean they are not fearful inside ) but at that same token what can you do we all die …just enjoy whatever life you have :) that’s my suggestion (as much as you can in this sad fucked up world)
 
Hey everyone,
Since all of us here are familiar with death I would like to ask a question to all of you. Honestly, death is something I fear a lot and even though the fear might be rational or irrational, I haven’t found a way to deal with it/way of looking at it yet. This is my reaching out to you guys to give me reasons to not be afraid of death. Sharing personal stories, theories or way of looking at it is more than welcome!

Thank you in advance, and if you make fun of me…well, fuck you :lulz:
live in the present not the future. what you have now is your priority. this is probably the most mentally sound advice you'll get on this site
 
Then prctice what you preach and fuck off, I for one see also the good that humans can do, yes we can be horrible, but we can also be brilliant and have many positives , a good family or partner is a massive positive that makes you grateful everyday you have consciousness and are alive for such a short time to experience that. If you are one of the dipshits rooting and complaining for all humans to perish then be my guest and fuck off first.

Have a nice day.
Mate don't worry I like you will not be around for long.....hahaha your kids and grandkids are the ones who are truly up shit creek......have a nice day fucktard! 👍
 
Hey everyone,
Since all of us here are familiar with death I would like to ask a question to all of you. Honestly, death is something I fear a lot and even though the fear might be rational or irrational, I haven’t found a way to deal with it/way of looking at it yet. This is my reaching out to you guys to give me reasons to not be afraid of death. Sharing personal stories, theories or way of looking at it is more than welcome!

Thank you in advance, and if you make fun of me…well, fuck you :lulz:
No need for that. Do it like me and just be curious what comes next.
 
My biggest fear would be to die not having done everything I wanted.
I believe have had better life then anyone could ask for, so I have no fear of death having done everything I wished for.
Nor do I have that inner fear of other people, that most people have.
In my mind, should people want to harm me, they will wake up as the human centipede four.
 
My life has always been, is and will always be crap, so I see death as a liberation.
So, don't be scared of death, embrace it. It's just the beginning of (hopefully better) something else.

That happens a lot, it’s not scammers. I’ve frequently given a prognosis of ‘a few days’ to the relatives of my palliative patients, had a call from them to say “they look better, they’ve eaten a meal and are sat out in a chair, they seem really happy etc” and then they die that night. These patients have been essentially unconscious prior to the pre-death boost of energy.

I’m sure the brain has ways of preparing for death that include the release of lots of happy neurotransmitters. But it is so frequent it makes me ponder what happens next?
If called the swan song, isn't it?
 
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That happens a lot, it’s not scammers. I’ve frequently given a prognosis of ‘a few days’ to the relatives of my palliative patients, had a call from them to say “they look better, they’ve eaten a meal and are sat out in a chair, they seem really happy etc” and then they die that night. These patients have been essentially unconscious prior to the pre-death boost of energy.

I’m sure the brain has ways of preparing for death that include the release of lots of happy neurotransmitters. But it is so frequent it makes me ponder what happens next?
my mother in law (god rest her soul) was just that. she was all vibrant, full of energy. talking of "cant wait to go home and sleep in her own bed and be at her own place. it was like she had another lease on life. then later that night,we got "the call". strange how that happens.
 
As someone that has come close to death a few times, I find I only "fear" it for logistical reasons. What will my spouse do? What will happen to my family members? How will they handle it? What will happen to the things I've poured my life into? Will my passing unify these things? Or will it break them, leave them languishing in disrepair.

I don't fear death or mortality. Pain (both physical and psychological) and loss are both in and of themselves, universal constants. I don't believe in souls, eternity, heaven, hell, etc. It is more so that these concerns lead me to want to live a healthier/more productive life, and in doing so that I may prolong the inevitable, and perhaps have an okay time along the way.

"Choose life" - that one movie
Ya, I've faced the grim reaper a few times and till now have been able to tell him to fuck off. But unlike you I really don't much worry about who I'll leave behind. I figure they'll grieve and eventually move on. As for things I've left unfinished, meh oh well....guess that pine planter won't get built.

I fear the pain of death and want no part of it. While I don't want to die, I quite enjoy life, when my time comes it better be quick or I'll move it along myself. I don't believe in the christian fairytale heaven but I do think there is some sort of cosmic energy we become part of. I just want to see my puppy dogs again when I'm dead.

That happens a lot, it’s not scammers. I’ve frequently given a prognosis of ‘a few days’ to the relatives of my palliative patients, had a call from them to say “they look better, they’ve eaten a meal and are sat out in a chair, they seem really happy etc” and then they die that night. These patients have been essentially unconscious prior to the pre-death boost of energy.

I’m sure the brain has ways of preparing for death that include the release of lots of happy neurotransmitters. But it is so frequent it makes me ponder what happens next?
There are good deaths and there are bad deaths. A good death is to knock off in your sleep with no suffering or EOL drama, a bad death is anything else. I've seen both and a good death can actually be beautiful for lack of a better word, bad deaths can be horrific.

Do you consume a lot of caffiene? Caffiene is known to cause panick attacks and anxiety.
I get panic attacks if I don't drink coffee.
 
Who wouldn’t be afraid of unbieng? It’s not that death is “nothing” as what someone said already, everything we know is our being and death is the absolute end of that, the complete end of the self. You can say well you won’t be able to fear once you are dead or oh well yes the end of the self and the beginning of the infinite, but the bottom line is that we are our thoughts and there is nothing irrational about being afraid of those thoughts coming to an end, it’s terrifying. My only solace personally is knowing that you won the lottery to begin with just being born, we are extremely lucky to even be able to contemplate this.
 
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