How Do You Know When You Love Someone?

[kevin kirk]

Loving a caring for someone is a totally different love from being *inlove* with a partner.

So different it has a different name

 

[barcelona]

Being inlove means they dominate your every other thought. You can't wait to get back to them from work. Being apart is actually painful.

 

[kevin kirk]

Being inlove means they dominate your every other thought. You can't wait to get back to them from work. Being apart is actually painful.

.....Your right,and I agree.But we have to take in consideration that there are words that have been defined with there meaning of that witch you mentioned in your point.Words like infatuation,lusting,and so on.If these words definition means what you feel.Why not use them instead of the word love.Even though it means your infatuated with someone when you have a person dominating your thoughts.You just don't here people saying Im infatuated with someone.They say there in love with someone.Thats why we have 12 year old girls telling there boyfriend they love them after 2 weeks.They were lyed to about what to call how they feel.Then "being inlove" gets the blame for the outcome when they really was just infatuated,or had a simple crush was the blame for getting hurt...A very important thing when they are young and feeling things for the first time.Try explaining to a teen girl that she just "liked" a guy instead of being "inlove" with him,and she will think your crazy,and Run off with him just to prove she is in love.Only because nobody ever taught her there are many different kinds of feeling.Not all means love.

 

[ramblar]

When your heart gets ripped out and instead of anger you cry. Then you know you did love them.

 

[McM]

I haven't the faintest idea...

 

[ramblar]

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I haven't the faintest idea...

Wish I didn't.

 

[deej]

you get a tingle in your special purpose !

 

[Honest]

Thr feeling of being crazy in love is a temporary illusion. after that trust and tolerance is the true test.

 

[debardeleben]

I used to believe that love was a light switch. Something flicks on. You get an overwhelming sensation. It hits you like a bag of bricks. Or a strong arrow. When you know, you know. Right? Not so much. After 38 years and an expired marriage, I don’t see love that way anymore. I’ve placed Cupid right next to Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny.

Love is a series of choices. The first choice is based on many many factors, including chemistry, principles, logic, humor, intelligence, body type, where we are in our lives, what we want/need… the list goes on and on, and the weight of each factor varies depending on the individual. Based on these factors, we either choose to begin the process to love or not. If we decide to enter this process, the action of loving can bring “light switch” moments. The way he looks at you. How hard she makes you laugh. The notes he hides in your purse. The way she makes you feel when you don’t feel anything.

But like an airplane flight, there is turbulence. The fights. The disagreements. The little things that bother you. His socks. Her shopping. You start wondering if you’ve made the right choice. Once you are in doubt, you have to make another choice: to continue to fly with this person or jump out of the plane. This choice is based on a thousand other factors, again depending on the individual and where they are in their journey. If you decide to jump, the scary free fall will either make you stronger (grow) or miserable (depressed). But sooner or later, you’ll find yourself back at the airport waiting to board another plane. Then you hit turbulence. Or maybe there is no turbulence. Maybe you’ve changed your mind about the destination. Either way, another choice. Fly or jump?

Love is making a choice every single day, to either love or not love. That’s it. It’s that simple. Either to continue the process or not. We fall in and out of love. Even in relationships, especially in relationships. This doesn’t mean we don’t love the person. It means we are left with a choice. There is a difference between feeling love for someone (caring about a person) and loving someone (choosing to love that person). You may have love for someone forever. But that doesn’t mean you choose to love that person forever. The choice to love is not a feeling; it is an action. That is why it is so difficult. It requires you to do something, and I’m not just talking about buying flowers. It might mean putting your wants aside. Also, like chemistry, the ability to love is not a constant. It is a variable. It fluctuates, depending on where you’re at in your life and what you’re struggling with. Sometimes it is easy to love. Sometimes it is extremely difficult. But at the end of the day, it’s always a choice.

Although love varies, it also deepens. This means the longer you stay on that flight and embark on the journey together, the more fruit the process with bare. Your investment pays off. Your choices become easier. You not only become stronger as a couple, but also as individuals, assuming the love process is healthy - which means you guys are both doing work. The choice to love creates opportunity to hit notes in life that you could never hit alone, and THIS is what makes your choice worth it.

So, how do you know if it’s love? That is not the question to ask. The question is: Do you choose to love this person or not? Right now. Not tomorrow. Today. Make a choice. Yes or no. If the answer is yes, love as hard as you can. Love with everything you’ve got (your capacity right now at this point in your life). If the answer is no, promise me one thing.

Let the fall make you stronger.

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[D.O.A.]

Thr feeling of being crazy in love is a temporary illusion. after that trust and tolerance is the true test.

trust is something in my opinion that needs to be earned straight away, and once you have it, it does not factor in after that. Same with tolerance. Just say I'm 4 years into a relationship and trust is still an issue, well, get the fuck out. Same for tolerance, you'll know after a week if I'm prepared to put up with your shit for potentially decades.

 

[Honest]

trust is something in my opinion that needs to be earned straight away, and once you have it, it does not factor in after that. Same with tolerance. Just say I'm 4 years into a relationship and trust is still an issue, well, get the fuck out. Same for tolerance, you'll know after a week if I'm prepared to put up with your shit for potentially decades.

agree but if u havent know each other long, trust remains to be earned. it usually doesnt take long. ive never married so i clearly like my space. and put up with shit is a good way of putting it. im not much of a compromiser.

 

[mrln]

when you want to just walk away but for some reason you cant. its not as easy as the last time.

 

[LilyCuster]

If you find it and keep it once in your life, consider yourself blessed.

 

[ScHoLaR oF SMuT]

easy answer. when i tell uncles in baalbek, south bierut and iran not to kill him

 

[MATAMUERTOS]

when you wipe their ass on their deathbed.

 

[mrln]

 

[CMCW]

when you don't want to kill yourself after having sex with them that means true love is REAL.

 

[ScHoLaR oF SMuT]

whens you can spoon together in bed at night and still not care his wet shit fart soiled your cotton linen night gown

 

[ScHoLaR oF SMuT]

when you don't want to kill yourself after having sex with them that means true love is REAL.

ahh but if you kill him during sex it means he was great and you loved him even more