Reflect Upon Yourself (Then/Now)

[Amalgamation]

As you currently are, versus how you were as a young adult facing the world with a fresh face.
This may be a trip down memory lane for some, or for others, a time not very long ago.

- What did you believe the world had in store?

- What were you most wrong about?

- What's your best life-lesson?

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If you're younger, ask something you wonder about life for the wise and mature to give advice on.

If you're wise and mature, well, do whatever the fuck you want.

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I'm relatively younger so I'll ask those beyond my age; what's something you wish you could have learned sooner in life?

 

[DeathMetalWife]

Best life lesson I have is to be willing to try to understand (you don't have to empathize) and listen to those you fundamentally disagree with. We're all still human. Be accepting of other's perspectives when you cannot change them, and do so respectfully and with humility so long as you aren't compromising your own beliefs, needs, or rights in the process. Not everything has to be so fucking contentious.

 

[Theseus]

I’m only 23 so don’t really have anything to add. I am however excited to hear from older members. My question for you older folks would be. What keeps you living? What’s your reason for staying around on this crazy ape rock hurdling through the cosmos? 🤣 P.S. Excellent thread idea!

 

[ZeroK]

I’m only 23 so don’t really have anything to add. I am however excited to hear from older members. My question for you older folks would be. What keeps you living? What’s your reason for staying around on this crazy ape rock hurdling through the cosmos? 🤣 P.S. Excellent thread idea!

I’m proud to be twice ur age, best advice I can give u is ‘Don’t Lend Your Truck To Your Girlfriend’

 

[Super Kirbo]

I thought the world was fair and effort was rewarded i have come to learn its more who you know not what you know, also if we were all stuck on a island the tolerant would be the first to try to eat you.

What keeps me going is the thought half life 3 will one day come out.

 

[Skirmish Line]

I thought the world was fair and effort was rewarded i have come to learn its more who you know not what you know, also if we were all stuck on a island the tolerant would be the first to try to eat you.

What keeps me going is the thought half life 3 will one day come out.

Definitely I’ve seen incompetents who knew the right person get positions they couldn’t handle

 

[Magster]

1) Never get married
2) look at 1

 

[ThunderCat]

Blood is thicker than water...(In the family term)

I was wrong about that...

Also....Don't spoil.your kids way too much as they tend to grow up.really selfish.
Tough Love people, Tough Love works..

 

[mrln]

dont rush thru life. and take it slow. dont fall for temptation.
i thought the world was a better place as youd get older. but its more fucked up than thought.
stay in school

 

[eatmydiarrhoea]

I believe that Love & Gratitude should be verbs.

True love, and real gratitude has to become apparent in your actions towards others and yourself.

Words are not enough.

Although frequenting sites with content like this for years I believe the vast majority of people are inherently good.

I still believe in the commonality of the human spirit.

I believe you are under no obligation to remain the same person you were a year ago, a month ago or even a day ago.

We are here to create ourselves, continuously.

And one of the things I was wrong about that I use to believe was true:

No, everything does not happen for a reason.

We like to tell ourselves that so we can take refuge in a concept when something really fucked up happens like children dying of cancer or your first love breaking your heart. And the more fucked something is, the tighter we wrap ourselves up in that proverbial blanket in hopes to burst out of its protective arms like a cocoon, reborn, unaffected and to be something new and more beautiful than our previous selves while all along the patterns on our wings we think set us apart from everyone else are merely the collective scars that we all share.

 

[Flatus Tube]

Learn to identify, and then ignore your ego. Tell it to fuck off if needed (it works). The ego is a construct of our minds, which is intended to protect us from the world. Experience in our lives, mostly in our childhood, forms how the ego responds and what ‘solutions’ if offers.

For example, advertising and social interactions may lead the ego to say to us “if I get those new Nike shoes, I will be happy and others will think I am cool”. But that’s bollocks. Getting those shoes may give a fleeting sense of positivity, but those shoes do nothing to change who we are and only last a certain period of time.

Our ego chooses the emotion we feel in a given situation, but then blames the situation for the emotion. E.g. “The way that nob-end spoke to me has made me angry and ruined my day”. However, the ‘nob-end’ is just an experience in that moment. We are the ones that react to it, and to some degree we have control over the emotional reaction. So in reality, we ruin our own day if we decide to listen to the ego and maintain a negative mind state.

Someone can get in your face and call you a cunt. That is simply an event. You can either…
Punch them.
Cry like a baby.
Run away.
Silently grumble in your mind about it for hours.
Force your pronouns on them.
Or, remain calm and just let the moment pass (leading to a positive day).

Identifying your ego, and then telling it to fuck off is vital to being truly happy, managing addictions/ anxiety/ depression etc. It takes daily practice and reflection, and isn’t always easy. But it really does work, and is one of the main practices I’ve followed to get from opiate addiction and suicidal depression to being truly happy.

I’ve completed Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth 5 times as it keeps my zen mind state going.

 

[eatmydiarrhoea]

Learn to identify, and then ignore your ego. Tell it to fuck off if needed (it works).

100% I call my ego a little bitch ALL the time when it starts creeping in.

"Fuck off you little bitch!" and it typically fucks off.

For example, advertising and social interactions may lead the ego to say to us “if I get those new Nike shoes, I will be happy and others will think I am cool”. But that’s bollocks. Getting those shoes may give a fleeting sense of positivity, but those shoes do nothing to change who we are and only last a certain period of time.

I absolutely agree. Nike? Fuck a Nike!

New Balance, boy! Crafted from premium foam to cradle heels and cushion your feet, podiatrist approved!

 

[Theseus]

I’m proud to be twice ur age, best advice I can give u is ‘Don’t Lend Your Truck To Your Girlfriend’View attachment 758112

Made that mistake already and she got a double whammy! DUI and my car was totaled. 😆 killed an oak tree. 🤣 solid advice!

 

[mrln]

im glad that i joined the military though.

 

[D.O.A.]

As you currently are, versus how you were as a young adult facing the world with a fresh face.
This may be a trip down memory lane for some, or for others, a time not very long ago.

- What did you believe the world had in store?

- What were you most wrong about?

- What's your best life-lesson?

- - - - - - -

If you're younger, ask something you wonder about life for the wise and mature to give advice on.

If you're wise and mature, well, do whatever the fuck you want.

- - - - - - -

I'm relatively younger so I'll ask those beyond my age; what's something you wish you could have learned sooner in life?

Don't trust anyone
Don't lend anyone money
Don't walk away from a fight
Don't be a fag

 

[ReallyJess]

accountability and vulnerability take courage.

teach people the way you want to be treated.

being related to someone doesn't earn them the right to be in your life.

flush early, flush often.

never fake an orgasm.

 

[Monstra ElisaSue]

I was raised by a narcissist bitch, and daddy wasn't there. My mom used to kick the shit out of me. I used to wish for someone to save me!

I was wrong to think anyone would save me, people knew what I was going through and did nothing.

I'm a fuckin awesome person and I always was even though I was always told otherwise.

I'm not only a survivor I'm a thriver. I'm a nursing student and some days I don't know how I do it but it fuckin' gets done. I can't wait to graduate and show my mom what a "stupid little cunt" can accomplish.

 

[hedgerow]

We are evolving, so try evolving yourself into a better person.

How you focus your attention will affect your happiness, so train your mind to focus on things that will improve you.

Live in the now, forget about the past, and don't worry about the future.

Try to avoid drink and/or drug habits and addictions.

 

[Smooby]

I don't believe I ever thought about what the world had in store for me as a young person. I lived my life impulsively, usually doing stupid shit that provided temporary gratification or an escape from whatever I was supposed to be doing.

I was most wrong about thinking I had all the time in the world to pursue whatever I wanted. I had unrealistic expectations of what would make me happy which often left me feeling discouraged so I wasted a lot of time being miserable. Now I'm as old as the people I used to call old at family gatherings.

This is a lame life-lesson, but has impacted me. The importance of documenting everything when dealing with work, business, medical, and finance. For example if you have an altercation with someone at work, or a verbal agreement regarding money, write down the name, date/time and details of the interaction. If you can get video/audio recordings for serious issues that's a big plus. Also never sign a document without reading it first. Sounds like a no-brainer but people do it all the time.

My very most bestest life-lesson that I'm still trying to learn is to be content with my life.

 

[Deleted User 201666]

Look after yourself health wise , iam 57 next week feel fucking 77 , eat well rest and recover, plus learn from your mistakes n never regret your past