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home for a bit

i never heard of going home from rehab. it must be a euopean thing i guess? idk. i went to rehab just before halloweenand didnt get out till the end of feb. i was gone thru the holidays and there wasnt any going home for the holidays. i dont remember anyone leaving.
it will only be a matter of time before your back on that shit. its cruel to say,but a hard fact. 100% of people who try to recover from heroin,80% relapse.
hope im wrong though. good luck and keep going to the support groups when you get out. its the only way your gunna succeed. other than not hanging with the people who you were hanging with, when you were booting up.
good luck!
 
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Well done for getting into rehab. It’s almost 2.5 years since I was admitted to rehab for opiates and alcohol. I’ve been sober since and life is so much better. I opted not to have maintenance therapy with methadone or buprenorphine. Long term, being totally drug free is better, but maintenance therapy is beneficial to many people for a period of time.

Our pasts cannot be changed, they have already happened. We can learn from them and re-parent our emotional responses to them. We can’t control our emotional impulses, but we can chose our response to them, which does take time and regular practice.

Nothing that happened to you in the past is your fault. Our naturally narcissistic child brains take any event as ‘it must be my fault’ which then leads to toxic shame as adults. A deep feeling there is something wrong with us and that we are not worth the love of anyone and even ourselves. Addictions become the pain relief, the numbing effect or the quick mood boost. Ultimately, addiction makes everything worse.

Sobriety allows us to find ourselves again. Find love again, and find happiness again.

It is okay to sometimes feel sad, bored, angry or anxious. These are normal emotions. Learn to sit with them for a period of time, and tell yourself “it is okay to feel like this”. Then, once you have accepted the emotion, you can move towards a nicer or neural emotion in a healthy way, rather than trying to fix it quickly with any addictive behaviour or substance.

Live in ‘the now’. Don’t live in the past, or try to predict the future. Make the present moment your focus, don’t try to control what you can’t control, and good things will come from this.

I wish you all the best in your recovery. You are worth the life you have been given, and the love you will receive.
Sitting with discomfort is so important. Distress tolerance as a skill is really the key. Just because you feel bad, doesn't mean you are bad!
 
Getting clean is a fucking project. I didn’t make it this year. Maybe next year!
@sloirt I wish you well
 
i never heard of going home from rehab. it must be a euopean thing i guess? idk. i went to rehab just before halloweenand didnt get out till the end of feb. i was gone thru the holidays and there wasnt any going home for the holidays. i dont remember anyone leaving.
it will only be a matter of time before your back on that shit. its cruel to say,but a hard fact. 100% of people who try to recover from heroin,80% relapse.
hope im wrong though. good luck and keep going to the support groups when you get out. its the only way your gunna succeed. other than not hanging with the people who you were hanging with, when you were booting up.
good luck!

I could go home and visit a Gary Moore concert too but it was after 4 months of detox and theraphy and I had to reach 'stage 3' first. But the guys who were from prison and exchanged 2 years time for 6 months (successful) therapy (§35) had more difficulties getting some days off. Almost impossible so far I remember.
I've been deliberately there (just wanted to see/feel how it is) so I had no problems with getting a free weekend, or so.
 
Don't you think its time to put all that behind you? Become a new person and change your outlook on life, get rid of the faggot, just because someone else abused you, you don't have to abuse your self.
I ain't nuttin but a Fag! Ya that doesn't sound to good to Me. I'm sure actual Faggots would B "INTO" IT tho. Welcome to Brown Town; Where We're getting down,And becoming Brown!!!
🤣🤣🤣...SP
 
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I could go home and visit a Gary Moore concert too but it was after 4 months of detox and theraphy and I had to reach 'stage 3' first. But the guys who were from prison and exchanged 2 years time for 6 months (successful) therapy (§35) had more difficulties getting some days off. Almost impossible so far I remember.
I've been deliberately there (just wanted to see/feel how it is) so I had no problems with getting a free weekend, or so.
yea dude,like i said. i never heard of that. but i guess whoever runs the place feels it would help that person recover. their morale will boost. it would give them strength and a goal to strive for wanting sobriety. almost like a get out of jail card.
now i wonder what the statistic is for those who relapsed while they were out on pass?
then what happens? they get kicked out? does their programme start over again? did they fuck up their chances of getting another pass ever again?
 
yea dude,like i said. i never heard of that. but i guess whoever runs the place feels it would help that person recover. their morale will boost. it would give them strength and a goal to strive for wanting sobriety. almost like a get out of jail card.
now i wonder what the statistic is for those who relapsed while they were out on pass?
then what happens? they get kicked out? does their programme start over again? did they fuck up their chances of getting another pass ever again?
Depends on the Center your with...Some R lenient to an extent...Other's R not...Kinda like the Honor System and taking control of your life...It's a Rough Run for sure! 🤘🤟🤙...SP

thats all that matters really. if you dont lke yourself,then theres problems. maybe being sober isnt the life for you/ that person. it sounds logical to me at least.
:beer:
"I've gotta B Juiced to love Myself!" The name of another "Country & Western Tune" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣...SP
 
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Never look back it’s not worth it always remember that idk who the fuck you are but I’m proud of you keep it up
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yea dude,like i said. i never heard of that. but i guess whoever runs the place feels it would help that person recover. their morale will boost. it would give them strength and a goal to strive for wanting sobriety. almost like a get out of jail card.
now i wonder what the statistic is for those who relapsed while they were out on pass?
then what happens? they get kicked out? does their programme start over again? did they fuck up their chances of getting another pass ever again?
During my time there were 5 or 6 relapses; two guys didn't show up/come back anymore after they could visit their families but a brother told me they were on the scene again. The others got caught by a drug test you had to perform every time you left the house for longer and came back. Because they tried to sneak in without saying they took drugs, their therapy was botched and back to prison they went. Only one dude did say directly that he had lines of coke in his Saturday outside and they made an exception; he had 'room arrest' for two days (until he wasn't high anymore) and got extra treatment from the psychologists. Without admitting the drug use right at the return he'd been back in the box too. Btw, all clients there were from prison; I and a Russian street builder were the only ones who weren't.
If you fuck up drug therapy here, you can ask for a new start after two years again. It's paid by the regular retirement insurance normally, but don't know at the moment how it is with the permanently unemployed, etc. Guess, a social service will step in.
Therapy is 6 months nowadays. Back then it was 18, later down to 12 months.
 
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During my time there were 5 or 6 relapses; two guys didn't show up/come back anymore after they could visit their families but a brother told me they were on the scene again. The others got caught by a drug test you have to perform every time you left the house for longer and came back. Because they tried to sneak in without saying they took drugs, their therapy was botched and back to prison they went. Only one dude did say directly that he had lines of coke in his Saturday outside and they made an exception; he had 'room arrest' for two days (until he wasn't high anymore) and got extra treatment from the psychologists. Without admitting the drug use right at the return he'd been back in the box too. Btw, all clients there were from prison; I and a Russian street builder were the only ones who weren't.
If you fuck up drug therapy here, you can ask for a new start after two years again. It's paid by the regular retirement insurance normally, but don't know at the moment how it is with the permanently unemployed, etc. Guess, a social service will step in.
Therapy is 6 months nowadays. Back then it was 18, later down to 12 months.
i dont really agree with a pass,because of what happens. especially if the person doesnt have much time in the ctr. i can see if they have a few onths left,and theres more trust that the person wont relapse. and the person is strong enough or less tempted to relapse.
 
Well done for getting into rehab. It’s almost 2.5 years since I was admitted to rehab for opiates and alcohol. I’ve been sober since and life is so much better. I opted not to have maintenance therapy with methadone or buprenorphine. Long term, being totally drug free is better, but maintenance therapy is beneficial to many people for a period of time.

Our pasts cannot be changed, they have already happened. We can learn from them and re-parent our emotional responses to them. We can’t control our emotional impulses, but we can chose our response to them, which does take time and regular practice.

Nothing that happened to you in the past is your fault. Our naturally narcissistic child brains take any event as ‘it must be my fault’ which then leads to toxic shame as adults. A deep feeling there is something wrong with us and that we are not worth the love of anyone and even ourselves. Addictions become the pain relief, the numbing effect or the quick mood boost. Ultimately, addiction makes everything worse.

Sobriety allows us to find ourselves again. Find love again, and find happiness again.

It is okay to sometimes feel sad, bored, angry or anxious. These are normal emotions. Learn to sit with them for a period of time, and tell yourself “it is okay to feel like this”. Then, once you have accepted the emotion, you can move towards a nicer or neural emotion in a healthy way, rather than trying to fix it quickly with any addictive behaviour or substance.

Live in ‘the now’. Don’t live in the past, or try to predict the future. Make the present moment your focus, don’t try to control what you can’t control, and good things will come from this.

I wish you all the best in your recovery. You are worth the life you have been given, and the love you will receive.
Fantastic approach Bro! I hope your advice is considered and accepted ✊️
🤘🤟🤙...SP
 
yea dude,like i said. i never heard of that. but i guess whoever runs the place feels it would help that person recover. their morale will boost. it would give them strength and a goal to strive for wanting sobriety. almost like a get out of jail card.
now i wonder what the statistic is for those who relapsed while they were out on pass?
then what happens? they get kicked out? does their programme start over again? did they fuck up their chances of getting another pass ever again?
for me, we had a flu outbreak on another part of the center and they let a few people go home if they werent sick. im having therapy every day and i get 2-3 calls a day from the treatment place, i probably wont be staying home till christmas, they are getting everything under control and im gonna go back, but i told them i needed to and my family is kicking me out... again even though im 18, which sucks but they arent really my family they are just my relatives. im actually sleeping outside a fried pie place for the night then im staying with my therapist for a couple day, then im back to rehab. it sucks but i got to turn my life around and get past the things that make me use substances like the loss of two friends this year and my abuse. im going to get better.

Goddamn.... this thread is full of QUITTERS..... sad..... lol....
can a mod delete this guys comments? its kinda aggravating.
 
for me, we had a flu outbreak on another part of the center and they let a few people go home if they werent sick. im having therapy every day and i get 2-3 calls a day from the treatment place, i probably wont be staying home till christmas, they are getting everything under control and im gonna go back, but i told them i needed to and my family is kicking me out... again even though im 18, which sucks but they arent really my family they are just my relatives. im actually sleeping outside a fried pie place for the night then im staying with my therapist for a couple day, then im back to rehab. it sucks but i got to turn my life around and get past the things that make me use substances like the loss of two friends this year and my abuse. im going to get better.


can a mod delete this guys comments? its kinda aggravating.
Friend, I wish you luck in your path of recovery but one thing we can't control is the ignorance of others. If you find this guy aggravating you'd be best served just ignoring him. You're going need to build that level of acceptance if you ever intend to have serenity. We can't just delete those who annoy us. Again, best of luck in your ongoing battle.
 
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