One Step Closer

[Torta Gordita]

As some a you know, my Daddy were diagnosed in May with Stage 4 Metastatic Pancreatic Cancer. The last time id seent my Daddy were in late April/May.

He also losted a leg to Diabetes. He losted his right leg, i lost my left. He were up and walking with his prosthetic and doing great.

He were diagnosed when he and my StepMom went back to Texas after seeing me here in Fl and stopping in Slidell to see his late Brother, Uncle Francisco in the Military Cemetery.

I talked to him this Sunday and were going to call him tonight. I noticed he were speaking slower and

I got a video call from my Sister, Liz, that he's actively transitioning to his next destination. He's hardly breathing, bloated and were sleeping 24 hours straight.


The last thing we tolded each on the phone were

Me: Yeah, Il let you go and call you tomorrow
My Daddy: Yeah, call me tomorrow.
Me: I love you, Daddy
My Daddy: I love you too, Baby.

Id text him every night goodnight even tho he couldn't hold his phone well enough to text back.

Then came my horrible Mother and older fuck shit sibling being horrible, vile and crude about my Father dying. Talking mad shit and acting like they know everything.


Making up fake scenarios in they head and getting so fucking butthurt triggered that my StepMom will have the Funeral so fast I won't get there in time. And how they spent so much money there's nothing left to give to my Sibling. I hafta drive since I can not fly at all haven't been able to since 2007. It's a little over 20 hours, and I can do 15 hours with only quick pees and a coffee re-up.


I know what states I gotta go thru and here's my dumb fuck stick Sibling telling me I hafta get on I-10 and even go thru Louisiana. No shit. I been there for my estranged Twin Sisters Wedding in 2016. I been everywhere East Coast and don't need Captain Fat Back telling me what to do. Hes 53, I'm 48.

But they been horrible and I used to be super close with my Mom but my Sibling is beened her Favorite and I am my Daddy's. I always been a Daddy's Girl. Him and his Mom, my beautiful Angel Abuelita were the only 2 who never abused me.


My Husband had been laid off and couldn't get a job in 6 weeks and we're barely 2 paychecks in with his new job and she's all over me about giving her more money a month, fine. We will do that. No issues. But then turns the convo to how my Husband shouldn't hey a free trip. Even referring to him and i
"Tootling off to Texas. Like were going to fucking Wally World and it's a leisurely visit.


I have no choice but to use a mutual credit card we share and she's making me out to be like I'm dead ass going on a fun fucking jaunt and talking the most disgusting vile things. I am so over stressed, and overwhelmed. I were depressed enough already but the shit just keeps getting worse.


I just wanna go with my Daddy.

 

[PokeyCactus]

I’m sorry about your father.

You say you have no choice, but you do.

You don’t have to go back and deal with all the drama.

My brother died around New Year’s and I just flat out told my mom that I love her very much, but that I wasn’t coming home. I don’t have the money, I’m not into drama so I don’t do family shit very well, and I couldn’t get the time off from work.

I work in the death “industry”, and I’ve just gotten to the point of knowing that they’re gone and my grief is for me to deal with on my own. Lots of people need others to work it out - but with the stress you’re going to be facing by going back - you wouldn’t be able to properly grieve and get their support anyways.

There comes a time in life when - no matter what others think about us - we gotta just do what we feel is good for us. Selfish? I don’t think so! For me it’s about taking care of myself and keeping myself at peace.

I hope all of this works out for you. You can say no and it’ll all be ok!

 

[Fäthër Cörpsë]

1. Suggest an NG tube for your father, it should help with the bloating and im guessing poor stats
2. Use the credit card to get to his side. It’s just money/debt, it’s finite. And will be worth it to be with your father before/if he passes
3. Fuck the rest of them. Their opinions don’t mean anything, they can stfu

 

[Torta Gordita]

1. Suggest an NG tube for your father, it should help with the bloating and im guessing poor stats
2. Use the credit card to get to his side. It’s just money/debt, it’s finite. And will be worth it to be with your father before/if he passes
3. Fuck the rest of them. Their opinions don’t mean anything, they can stfu

I will be going to his Funeral but I couldn't leave tonight's if I wanted. Being disabled sucks asf but I'll be there regardless but I've never seent my Mother this hateful about things. It's pathetic, and they don't know to be embarrassed.


It's like listening to a buncha fat slags at a piece bake off.

 

[Torta Gordita]

I’m sorry about your father.

You say you have no choice, but you do.

You don’t have to go back and deal with all the drama.

My brother died around New Year’s and I just flat out told my mom that I love her very much, but that I wasn’t coming home. I don’t have the money, I’m not into drama so I don’t do family shit very well, and I couldn’t get the time off from work.

I work in the death “industry”, and I’ve just gotten to the point of knowing that they’re gone and my grief is for me to deal with on my own. Lots of people need others to work it out - but with the stress you’re going to be facing by going back - you wouldn’t be able to properly grieve and get their support anyways.

There comes a time in life when - no matter what others think about us - we gotta just do what we feel is good for us. Selfish? I don’t think so! For me it’s about taking care of myself and keeping myself at peace.

I hope all of this works out for you. You can say no and it’ll all be ok!

Im so sorry about your Brother. You have my prayers. Im ginna do what i need to go. My Father loves me and I refuse to miss this when he specifically asked for me and my sibling to be there. But im going and not ginna regret anything. Not this time

 

[mrln]

you do you and your dad. fuck the rest of them. sounds like you need to cut ties with them after this situation is all done.