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Serious Accused of sexual harassment at work

Usually in these type situations of he said she said, the truth is somewhere in the middle.
That being said, remember: admit nothing, deny everything, make counter-accusations.
 
I hate 97% of women. I will still hate fuck them though.
Thats EXACTLY how I feel about men....except for the hate fucking thing and its closer to 99,9%. Relived I'm not alone, always nice to have common interests and grounds.
Whole situation sounds a tad weird. Sounds like even if she said "I'm OK with you taking pictures" she wasn't and maybe felt it was super akward saying so to your face.

Why is it even a thing that you look good or not? And what other females said and thought of you?? And you say yourself "but just to illuminate this isn't some fucking goblin hitting on a 10 lol"
So we're you hitting on her.. low-key?
And why would she ever be more happy with a "looker" "harassing" her, a than a non looker??
Such a weird statement. I can tell you that the times I've been harassed... I didn't feel it was nicer, better or less creepy because it was someone looking nice.

With that said, if it was only one picture, it seems way off to say its harressment. And why not talk about the situation in a calm matter, maybe with a neutral 3 party to calm the waves and help sorting out what happend. And especially what didn't.

And it dosnt sound like a good situation for you. If you have the possibility find a new place and a fresh start.... Can't be fun spending so much of your day with people that you "might" trust or get knives in your back from.
Whole situation sounds a tad weird. Sounds like even if she said "I'm OK with you taking pictures" she wasn't and maybe felt it was super akward saying so to your face.
 
Thats EXACTLY how I feel about men....except for the hate fucking thing and its closer to 99,9%. Relived I'm not alone, always nice to have common interests and grounds.
So you’re a Feminist? Most of my comments are complete sarcasm…. I hate most people generally. It’s easier than trying to understand them.
 
I think in general most people are "feminist". I don't label myself as such. I don't like labels.
I think my hate is just experience. I know it's "not all men. But as you say... its safer/easier just to hate. I was not sarcastic at all.... wich can also be seen in my profile text.
 
my suggestion; quietly find a new job, and move on. Even if you are cleared of this, people will still have in the back of their heads that you possibly could be a “creep/stalker/rapist” - even if you are truly innocent. Another option is when HR clears your name, sue her for defamation of your name and character like Johnny Depp did…you may get lucky and be awarded some cash, or get her fired :-)
 
Background info: I'm 37 (Southern Ontario, Canada), failed post-secondary attempts but that's the past right? Looking past regrets and looking into the varied skilled trades to find something I'd really enjoy doing that pays well. Until then, general labour jobs in the area; I lucked out with a pool company as a maintenance person.

They assigned me for first three days with this girl who's probably 22 at oldest. I'm not going to jeopardize this new job that pays a decent starting wage for the coming inflation. So I actually respect women a lot and actually try to make them comfortable around me, by not ogling them or staring, catcalling or any of that shit they complain about so much about actual creeps. Me and her start off pretty good, she's good at her job and taught me most of what I know so far. Any other talk we've had has been random and mundane, like her bringing up her personal life, and we compared pets and she even asked me advice on how to handle her and her mom's dogs' separation, and I emphasized to bring dog for visit as often as possible when she goes to see her mom.

One day I want to take a selfie to add to profile pictures, because I want more photos of myself in varying situations. (Vital point to add: girls have complimented my looks quite a few times in the past, I'm not saying that to brag, but just to illuminate this isn't some fucking goblin hitting on a 10 lol). I considered just taking it sideways to show work equipment and part of her in picture incidentally, but I decided to ask permission first. She was driving and I asked loud and clear if I could take a work selfie for photo collection, and if she was in shot I'd blur or crop it. She turned slightly, saw phone and said "Yeah, that's fine."

Then she reports me to the manager, who calls me in the next morning to say she accused me of harassment and taking photos of her. Despite her granting explicit consent to my face.
Not usually confrontational, and in the moment of being chewed out, I didn't remember to say that. The girl avoided me terribly, didn't say hello, looked past me, like night and day. Since girls talk, she has guaranteed told other co-workers her version of events by now.

They assigned me with someone else, we did our first few jobs but I was still badly affected by the harassment accusation. It took a few hours before I realized I forgot she granted consent.

The harassment policy in the employee handbook states "All events will be investigated fully and fairly in a reasonable amount of time. No employee will be reprimanded in any way for reporting an act of violence or harassment regardless of the outcome of the investigation." Typical harassment policy, but does that mean female employees can make shit up about a guy they work with, with no fear of consequence to themselves?

Going in 30 min early Monday, going to constructively discuss this with manager and seeing what happens; because the situation as it stands is untenable, and imo this is a huge misunderstanding, or she forgot what she said. I'd love it to just go back to normal with no awkwardness, but we'll see. But I won't work at a place that labels me a harasser unfairly, without due process. I'll do best to enjoy weekend before then.

I just had to vent about this shit, and gather opinions.
So you don’t know how to talk to girls and wanted a photo of both of you so you can post it on Instagram or some other loser social media groups, you’re pathetic!!
There’s nothing left for you in this world, do everyone a favor.
 
my suggestion; quietly find a new job, and move on. Even if you are cleared of this, people will still have in the back of their heads that you possibly could be a “creep/stalker/rapist” - even if you are truly innocent. Another option is when HR clears your name, sue her for defamation of your name and character like Johnny Depp did…you may get lucky and be awarded some cash, or get her fired :)
Good.
Find a job and go to work. Hey, This is to all Goregrish
 
Thats EXACTLY how I feel about men....except for the hate fucking thing and its closer to 99,9%. Relived I'm not alone, always nice to have common interests and grounds.
Whole situation sounds a tad weird. Sounds like even if she said "I'm OK with you taking pictures" she wasn't and maybe felt it was super akward saying so to your face.

Why is it even a thing that you look good or not? And what other females said and thought of you?? And you say yourself "but just to illuminate this isn't some fucking goblin hitting on a 10 lol"
So we're you hitting on her.. low-key?
And why would she ever be more happy with a "looker" "harassing" her, a than a non looker??
Such a weird statement. I can tell you that the times I've been harassed... I didn't feel it was nicer, better or less creepy because it was someone looking nice.

With that said, if it was only one picture, it seems way off to say its harressment. And why not talk about the situation in a calm matter, maybe with a neutral 3 party to calm the waves and help sorting out what happend. And especially what didn't.

And it dosnt sound like a good situation for you. If you have the possibility find a new place and a fresh start.... Can't be fun spending so much of your day with people that you "might" trust or get knives in your back from.
Whole situation sounds a tad weird. Sounds like even if she said "I'm OK with you taking pictures" she wasn't and maybe felt it was super akward saying so to your face.
maybe you and @cannedkittens should hook up for the night. ;)
 
UPDATE: thanks so much everyone for the support, and even the meanies for the laughs lol. This was very hard to deal with, but hasn't made me hate women, but tells me to be more on my guard around them if I want to keep any future employment.

I considered coming in today, but it wasn't likely to end well anyway. So before my shift began, I sent the manager texts explaining my reason for not coming in today, how upset I was with being mislabeled a harasser and how it caused worse depression, and asking for an attempt at mediation, since she was creating a hostile work environment and likely spreading the info to others.

Guess what? NO REPLY. They're playing it smart, covering their own asses. I don't think I even have much of a legal case here, either. A lesson to "always be recording". From now on, I will do just that.
 
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