FYI Mothers Day

[djdeeds]

Today was Mothers Day here in Melbourne Australia.
For people that haven't yet heard my shit life story here or known me before I existed here on this site ... my feelings about my own mother are questionable.
I met up with her today.
I am proud of myself for being able to identify when I am triggered and to instantly put the wall up and make benign comments - and remain calm as fuck.
Long story short - (for the uninformed) .. my sister and I were abused to all fuckery by our Mum when we were little ...then she got massive financial benefits
from a sicko Pedo ...and I stop sharing my shit after that part ....
I nearly killed my own mum a couple of times and my sister pulled me back ..... but we get together occasionally and talk about how if I had just lost my shit ... and if I got sent to jail ... I would have been out by now anyway. even in the worst case scenario.
Anyhoo .. I met up with Mum today .... did the whole "Happy Mothers day" thingy .. sat and listened to her bitch and moan about her life ... her neighbors .. her grand daughter (my daughter!) .... her life in general ... and how life basically sucks. ...
I was driving home ... kinda relaxed ... realizing it was one of the first times in history that I was able to allow myself to let all that emotional bullshit just roll off my back.
My sister gave up on her years ago and says to me not to have anything to do with her ... but my weirdy concience tells me to forgive pains and all that stuff.
In some ways I feel like an idiot ... but it kind of makes me feel stronger to be in the presence of a horrible person who abused me as a kid and hold my head up unaffected - than to hide away and avoid a visit ... just cos everything kinda feels uncomfortable.
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Point of my post .....

Does "Mothers Day" .... "Birthdays" .... other "Days" make you feel unfairly obliged to participate in being nice to people you honestly feel are CUNTS?
It would be helpful to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

 

[Deleted User 201666]

Not spoken to my mother in years or intend too ever again , entitled narcissistic twat.

 

[Fäthër Cörpsë]

Honor is bestowed upon those worthy of it.

Squirting out a kid doesn’t automatically qualify for this bestowment.

 

[j.f.🔎]

I love my mother very much so no I don't feel that I have to make an effort, I want to.
Im sat on her sofa now but it's just a normal Sunday here, our mothers day was in March I think, unless I have other plans which is rare I'm here every Saturday and Sunday.

 

[puppyworld!]

i love my mommy , we’re gonna go to brunch and i gave her flowers and a card(ᵕ—ᴗ—) ♡

 

[Fäthër Cörpsë]

i love my mommy , we’re gonna go to brunch and i gave her flowers and a card(ᵕ—ᴗ—) ♡

Your mommy? How old are you?

 

[Theseus]

I don’t think you have to do anything for anyone who has hurt or betrayed you but I understand the feeling. My dad was an abusive drunk that left when I was very young. My mom is a pity party like yours. She wasn’t physically abusive like my dad but she does not regulate emotions properly so the rest of my family other than her, my brother and sister stoped talking to us when I was 15. I have basically no family due to the both of them. I do still feel a sense of loyalty to my mother as she provided food and housed me. But it’s next to impossible to have a proper relationship with someone who is a chronic complainer and gaslighter. Sounds like your mom is a narc or borderline like mine. I do feel obligated to show some love as she did for me in the only way she knows how. Just unfortunate she refuses to see how anything bad that happens to her could possibly be her own doing. Even if we have a disagreement she jumps to “you’re crazy” or “you are mentally ill”. Just like everyone els until she has no one. She’s alone in her own misery because she always points the finger at anything but herself. I’ve tried going to therapy with her but she will just jump therapist or refuse to go when the shrink figures out her game. Best of luck to you I know this parent shit is tough. 🤘🏻

 

[Russellmark11]

Today was Mothers Day here in Melbourne Australia.
For people that haven't yet heard my shit life story here or known me before I existed here on this site ... my feelings about my own mother are questionable.
I met up with her today.
I am proud of myself for being able to identify when I am triggered and to instantly put the wall up and make benign comments - and remain calm as fuck.
Long story short - (for the uninformed) .. my sister and I were abused to all fuckery by our Mum when we were little ...then she got massive financial benefits
from a sicko Pedo ...and I stop sharing my shit after that part ....
I nearly killed my own mum a couple of times and my sister pulled me back ..... but we get together occasionally and talk about how if I had just lost my shit ... and if I got sent to jail ... I would have been out by now anyway. even in the worst case scenario.
Anyhoo .. I met up with Mum today .... did the whole "Happy Mothers day" thingy .. sat and listened to her bitch and moan about her life ... her neighbors .. her grand daughter (my daughter!) .... her life in general ... and how life basically sucks. ...
I was driving home ... kinda relaxed ... realizing it was one of the first times in history that I was able to allow myself to let all that emotional bullshit just roll off my back.
My sister gave up on her years ago and says to me not to have anything to do with her ... but my weirdy concience tells me to forgive pains and all that stuff.
In some ways I feel like an idiot ... but it kind of makes me feel stronger to be in the presence of a horrible person who abused me as a kid and hold my head up unaffected - than to hide away and avoid a visit ... just cos everything kinda feels uncomfortable.
--
Point of my post .....

Does "Mothers Day" .... "Birthdays" .... other "Days" make you feel unfairly obliged to participate in being nice to people you honestly feel are CUNTS?
It would be helpful to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

Did you know mother's day is the day that has the least amount of criminal acts occur?

 

[Gentenaar9000]

Idontgiveafcuk

 

[djdeeds]

Idontgiveafcuk

HEY CUNT you limit what people can see on your profile ... that tells me you already have a guilty conscience ... cos I went to comment on your bullshit profile and like the sucky inverted cock asshole you seem to be it's limited ... that's just the shit people like you do .... if you have nothing to hide then why hide? otherwise you just talk shit RIGHT? and don't wanna be questioned ... Fuck yourself ... your comments on here are now invalid - you gave yourself away as a total weak fuck face.

 

[Solomon Kane]

Where I come from, you get what you give.
At my age, no place for toxic shit in my life..
That includes family also.

 

[djdeeds]

Gentenaar9000 your emojis speak volumes to me you're nothing more than a Mammas boy - you were fucking coddled all your life - sucking titty at every challenge - you think you're fucking with people on this site with your reactions ...I've followed your shit mate - I know the game you're playing - have your FUN ... but don't take for granted people like me wont come AT YA!

 

[Amalgamation]

I bought my mother a $20 joint, a bouquet of flowers, spent a bit of the day together, and made her shrimp alfredo for dinner.

For Father's Day I might obtain a pilot's license and purchase a crop duster only to fill it with the piss of migrants, and lots of vinegar. I'll then make multiple laps spraying the mix on my dad's property with a banner flying behind me that reads, "END IT PUSSY".

 

[slickrick27]

Today was Mothers Day here in Melbourne Australia.
For people that haven't yet heard my shit life story here or known me before I existed here on this site ... my feelings about my own mother are questionable.
I met up with her today.
I am proud of myself for being able to identify when I am triggered and to instantly put the wall up and make benign comments - and remain calm as fuck.
Long story short - (for the uninformed) .. my sister and I were abused to all fuckery by our Mum when we were little ...then she got massive financial benefits
from a sicko Pedo ...and I stop sharing my shit after that part ....
I nearly killed my own mum a couple of times and my sister pulled me back ..... but we get together occasionally and talk about how if I had just lost my shit ... and if I got sent to jail ... I would have been out by now anyway. even in the worst case scenario.
Anyhoo .. I met up with Mum today .... did the whole "Happy Mothers day" thingy .. sat and listened to her bitch and moan about her life ... her neighbors .. her grand daughter (my daughter!) .... her life in general ... and how life basically sucks. ...
I was driving home ... kinda relaxed ... realizing it was one of the first times in history that I was able to allow myself to let all that emotional bullshit just roll off my back.
My sister gave up on her years ago and says to me not to have anything to do with her ... but my weirdy concience tells me to forgive pains and all that stuff.
In some ways I feel like an idiot ... but it kind of makes me feel stronger to be in the presence of a horrible person who abused me as a kid and hold my head up unaffected - than to hide away and avoid a visit ... just cos everything kinda feels uncomfortable.
--
Point of my post .....

Does "Mothers Day" .... "Birthdays" .... other "Days" make you feel unfairly obliged to participate in being nice to people you honestly feel are CUNTS?
It would be helpful to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

I held on to grudges and resentments for years, after I let everything go, I felt free. I stopped playing the blame game and took responsibility for my life and my actions. When I forgive someone it's like a weight lifted off my shoulders. It's a burden to carry.

 

[djdeeds]

I held on to grudges and resentments for years, after I let everything go, I felt free. I stopped playing the blame game and took responsibility for my life and my actions. When I forgive someone it's like a weight lifted off my shoulders. It's a burden to carry.

Thanks for that, I actually feel like I agree with that 100%. It took me literally years of carrying emotional baggage like a huge sack of potatoes on my shoulders then started thinking about how when we all die, none of any of it matters - and if none of it matters - why hold onto it? People are cunts for sure... family betrays and hurts - ex friends can be cruel ... Letting go of being pissed off doesn't mean it never happened - it just means they don't rule over how you feel. - FUCK'EM

I love my mother very much so no I don't feel that I have to make an effort, I want to.
Im sat on her sofa now but it's just a normal Sunday here, our mothers day was in March I think, unless I have other plans which is rare I'm here every Saturday and Sunday.

I yearned for that feeling since I was a kid. Sometimes I have weird thoughts of 'hypothetical' possible realities - like the other day I was walking through the mall and saw a mother laughing with her teenage son.. that's when I get those weirdy thoughts... like, imagine if my mother was different and me and my sister lived a whole different life with a mother who was "normal" - it's really strange but it's like a weird grieving for a reality that never happened. I actually feel glad you love your Mum and don't hold any yucky baggage - good for you 100% thanks for your comment

 

[NoorDZ]

Yes I was obliged several time when young but now that I'm a grown ass adult I don't give a fuck if I disappoint family members for not showing up to gathering or not calling, I have more freedom now.
I was indeed holding grudge for my mother but I forgave her years ago, it was the only way so I can find my inner peace, break the circle of pain

 

[mrln]

I held on to grudges and resentments for years, after I let everything go, I felt free. I stopped playing the blame game and took responsibility for my life and my actions. When I forgive someone it's like a weight lifted off my shoulders. It's a burden to carry.

Yes I was obliged several time when young but now that I'm a grown ass adult I don't give a fuck if I disappoint family members for not showing up to gathering or not calling, I have more freedom now.
I was indeed holding grudge for my mother but I forgave her years ago, it was the only way so I can find my inner peace, break the circle of pain

yea but sometimes the memories bring back the resentment and anger. only to start the "healing" process all over again.

 

[djdeeds]

I don’t think you have to do anything for anyone who has hurt or betrayed you but I understand the feeling. My dad was an abusive drunk that left when I was very young. My mom is a pity party like yours. She wasn’t physically abusive like my dad but she does not regulate emotions properly so the rest of my family other than her, my brother and sister stoped talking to us when I was 15. I have basically no family due to the both of them. I do still feel a sense of loyalty to my mother as she provided food and housed me. But it’s next to impossible to have a proper relationship with someone who is a chronic complainer and gaslighter. Sounds like your mom is a narc or borderline like mine. I do feel obligated to show some love as she did for me in the only way she knows how. Just unfortunate she refuses to see how anything bad that happens to her could possibly be her own doing. Even if we have a disagreement she jumps to “you’re crazy” or “you are mentally ill”. Just like everyone els until she has no one. She’s alone in her own misery because she always points the finger at anything but herself. I’ve tried going to therapy with her but she will just jump therapist or refuse to go when the shrink figures out her game. Best of luck to you I know this parent shit is tough. 🤘🏻

Yep, she likes to add shit to the end of every sentence just to rub in her contempt that I was even born .... shit like a normal sentence = "Oh so your week has been stressful? things will be alright ............. but instead just says .... "Things would be alright if you weren't the son of your mentally ill father who was a jackass , but you have his genes ...so that can't be helped and you can't help not being able to control your stress ..just like him... so ... just remember you and your sister have always been on the spectrum. - I swear when my sister and I talk about things we realize some of the shit we continually get subjected to is 100% psychological abuse - Dr Phil wouldn't even wanna deal with it.

 

[NoorDZ]

yea but sometimes the memories bring back the resentment and anger. only to start the "healing" process all over again.

True especially when they do a simple tiny mistake it's like a trigger but the healing process in this case won't be that long because the big part is already dealt with

 

[mrln]

True especially when they do a simple tiny mistake it's like a trigger but the healing process in this case won't be that long because the big part is already dealt with

correct. but old woulds are opened. thats my point.
what kind of card do you get a mother really? " your the worlds greatest mother . always been there for me and the family. the glue." and so on.
when there were major issues between child and mother,growing up. now as that child is an adult and this day comes once a yr,theres no card really. unless its just plain and simple,"happy mothers day" . in that case,just save the 8 dollars and say it yourself.
the issues can run deep