I have travelled to many countries and I can say that what the majority of urban, western and emancipated women seek as partners:
a guy with a pretty face (this is the most determining criterion, studies show that tests on babies who are attracted by the faces of people deemed attractive).. if applicable: large, with a good muscle count (thin or athletic does not count in my country (France), on the other hand, it scores points in a country with a lot of obese), a good social score (must know a lot of people, extraversion, verbal ease, humour, communication), a good financial score (a good job, owner, beautiful car or even country house..) a certain virility that can manifest in certain elite sports practices (boxing, horseback riding..) and neurons that work (culture, a lot of travel and living) .. In short, it is the "full package", the urban bourgeois generally white with a head of beautiful son.
the numerous exceptions to this rule exist only in the following cases:
1- the guy surpasses the chick in terms of beauty (the ultimate equalizer)
2- the girl is attracted by a culture, a country or a spirituality of which the guy is representative (Parisian town with an Indian or a Korean)
3- the girl frequents the guy in an environment where they are isolated from interactions with other men (very rare today).
what the majority of men seek:
A thin woman who doesn’t stink and takes showers.
it is the origin of the dissymmetry of supply and demand in the market of seduction: even if there were an equal distribution of men and women in terms of demography, social level, age, beauty.. there will always be an imbalance due to the very high male supply… imbalance that religions try to regulate with monogamy, the severe punishment of adultery, caste system in Hinduism (not only for this, but contributes to it).
the problem is not that women try to change men, the great concern is that they spend the most fertile period of their life in a phase of bulimia handsome.. and they have a very difficult time trying to lower their criteria when they’re in their early thirties. Meanwhile, the men "equivalent" to these women cross an emotional and sexual desert, punctuated by a few episodes of fucking with semi-tuna. In the end, we get dysfunctional couples.
Be kind to people, they’ll give it back.